Creating internal charismatic state is the easiest way to appear genuinely charismatic and interesting – similar to placebo
Use positive visualisations
Wight first impression is of utmost importnance. It is best to appear similar to people you are meeting.
Presence charisma is important – concentrate on what the other person is saying, show the interest
People appreciate full attention
Dont interrupt people
It is more important to make the other person feel good than it is to show how smart I am
Good speakers are keeping the spotlight on the other person
If someoone is calling, be very professional and cold. Only when the person introduces themselves, become very warm
It is good to start witha high note and end with a high note. Q&A is worthless
It is good tosit close to another person or at a 90 degree angle
When I am apologizing over the phone, it is important to listen
Handshake is important
Fun facts & Trivia
Marilyn Monroe was able to switch between Marilyn and Norma Jones so easily that she was able to ride the subway without people noticing her and be surrounded by paprazzi the moment she emerged from the platform
3 ingredients of great charisma
4 types of charisma
You can express different kinds in different situations. There is no one size fits all.
Dealing with stressful situations
First, focus on the physical situation and physical senses
If a person is boring, you can imagine her as star of a movie you are currently watching
If you are frustrated -> “maybe I am explaining it wrong”
Destigmatize, Dedramatize and neutralize
You can overwrite reality by imagining circumstances that explain the behaviour and change the optics
Remember that it is normal and we all go through it from time to time. Remember all the people that go through it, in particular people you admire. In this moment, many people have this experience
Things to consider before a big event to keep peak performance:
Aviod circumstances that can throw my composure off (it is better to not look perfect than to rush in the last minute)
Playlist matching the state of mind – can throw my mind into autopilot and govern the mood
Pause. Breathe. Slow Down.
Small meditations to regain composure during small crises
Sit comfortably, close eyes, get 3-4 deep breaths
Remember the time when you made something good to someone
Remember a person that can be fond of you
These feelings are covering you
They give you forgiveness for all that your internal critic is deeming as infirgiveable
They give you complete acceptance with your imperfections in this step of the way
Published by Artur Piszek
Engineer, Psychologist, Productivity explorer.
Both Software Engineer and Psychologist by education, I try to bridge the gap between those worlds by creating human-centric applications and use behavioral psychology principles to design ‘smart’ software.
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